When it comes to wedding planning, etiquette questions often revolve around financial matters. In the past, the bride's family was typically responsible for most of the wedding expenses. Nowadays, the groom's family may also contribute, with each side paying a third of the costs. The bride's family is usually in charge of the wedding venue and vendors, as well as all products and services related to the day.
This includes the bride's attire, flower arrangements, transportation on the wedding day, photo and video fees, travel and accommodation for the officiant (if coming from out of town), lodging for bridesmaids (if offered by the bride), and all reception expenses. Additionally, they are expected to pay for the bride's dress, bridesmaids' gifts (not including attire), wedding planner or coordinator, invitations, flowers, wedding reception, photographs, groom's wedding ring, music, pre-wedding food for the wedding party, and transportation and accommodation for the bride's family and children's bridesmaids. On the other hand, the groom or his family is responsible for paying for the honeymoon, bride's rings and other small expenses. They may also cover the rehearsal dinner and any additional activities such as a hometown newspaper ad if the groom is from another city or his parents live outside of the local distribution area.
When it comes to budgeting for a wedding, there are no hard and fast rules. Ultimately, it is up to the couple to decide who pays for what. Parents should not have to use their savings or take out a second mortgage to pay for their children's wedding when they have their own bills to pay. To make sure that everyone is on the same page when it comes to wedding costs, it is important to have an open conversation with both families about their expectations.
This will help ensure that everyone is comfortable with their contributions and that no one is left feeling overwhelmed by financial obligations.